By day five of my labour, I didn’t want an ‘ideal birth’. I only wanted to survive | Natalie Morris

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Key context: <p>Yvette Cooper’s maternity reforms must change a system that too often fails women when they’re at their most vulnerable</p><p>On the third day of being in labour with my first child, I entered a new state of being. It was time to dig deep. This is what I had learned in all the childbirth classes. As long as I remained calm, breathed as instructed, moaned through the pain, things would happen as they were meant to. My body knew what it was doing. Only, it didn’t.</p><p>On the fourth day, I started to beg. This wasn’t right. Despite contraction after relentless contraction, I wasn’t dilating. I hadn’t slept, I couldn’t even sit down. I needed help. And still, they waited. For what, I never understood.</p><p>Natalie Morris is the author of Mixed/Other: Explorations of Multiraciality in Modern Britain</p><p><em><strong>Do you have an opinion on the issues raised in this article? If you would like to submit a response of up to 300 words by email to be considered for publication in our<a href="https://www.theguardian.com/tone/letters"> letters</a> section, please <a href="mailto:guardian.letters@theguardian.com?body=Please%20include%20your%20name,%20full%20postal%20address%20and%20phone%20number%20with%20your%20letter%20below.%20Letters%20are%20usually%20published%20with%20the%20author%27s%20name%20and%20city/town/village.%20The%20rest%20of%20the%20information%20is%20for%20verification%20only%20and%20to%20contact%20you%20where%20necessary.">click here</a>.</strong></em></p> <a href="https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2026/aug/06/labour-ideal-birth-women-yvette-cooper-maternity-reforms">Continue reading...</a> This development from The Guardian highlights ongoing changes in the sector.